Learn how to understand challenging histories and best address the complex trauma in your life, whether it be your own, your child or another loved one. Self-compassion, avoiding shame in parenting and addressing these issues in therapy are covered.
Conquer your stress and worry using the neuroscience-backed techniques in this episode. Not woo-woo, movement and yoga can enhance the depth of your therapy and assist in reducing your upset no matter where you are. Also see the bonus track that accompanies this episode, a 12-minute high-quality meditation that you definitely want to give a try! Don’t be scared, you may be surprised you like it.
Neuroscience tells us that learning to manage our arousal through practice benefits our minds and body very quickly. This is a bonus episode designed to go with Episode 52 – this one is a straight 12-minute mindfulness meditation lead by yoga master and psychotherapist, Kelly Inselmann.
TU 51: Conquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert, Dr. Steve Finn
Shame, the good, the bad and the ugly! In this podcast, learn how to recognize the various forms of shame and how guilt can be an antidote to this pit in the stomach feeling. Sue Marriott, Dr. Ann Kelley and guest Dr. Stephen Finn engage in a wide-ranging discussion about the least favorite feeling in most people – the collapsed feeling of shame!
Get your own dormant entrepreneur inside of you excited with this podcast, which delves into the psychology of these successful leaders. Also find out how to increase the “luck” factor in getting your goals accomplished.
Become a master not a disaster at relationships! Quick tips to help you regulate emotions in yourself and others. Deepen your skills at deciphering these things we call feelings (ack!) and learn how to use this information to co-regulate yourself and those close to you.
Can healthy dialogue around the #MeToo phenomena cross genders? We explore the tensions felt by both men and women in their discussions around sexual harassment and assault and explore strategies for increasing understanding and connection.
Those of us who haven’t had it easy growing up aren’t doomed to repeat our challenges with our own children. Learning about secure parenting can make us paranoid, but no worries — there is a lot of leeway to get things generally right. Learn about the 4 S’s of healthy relating in this podcast.
Guest Esther Perel shares her research on love, desire and infidelity in modern relationships. Update your model of health and widen your perspective on the erotic, which is the difference between a relationship that just survives, and one that thrives!
Not only does Bob Schneider (professional musician and wicked Creative) share his navigation of emotion as he writes music, in this in-depth conversation he also shares personal stories about his therapy and recovery with Sue Marriott. He goes on to describe mediocre versus great therapy, how to train your critical brain like your dog, and taking in tons of information like a whale and spitting out “song turds” from his unconscious. Blending anecdotal stories, neuroscience and attachment theory, this interview both entertains and educates.
Bonus section: Sue discusses an extended excerpt of Schneider’s song, “Let the Light In” from an attachment perspective.
Learn how to use music to improve brain health, manage mood, increase relational happiness and get tips on how to build neural plasticity through this art. Remember, it’s not just cotton candy for the ears!
We continue our (sexy) conversation on ways to create sexual vitality throughout our lives. From honesty about our fantasies and desires, to sexual health and a new way of looking at addiction, this episode will get you thinking and hopefully sharing!
TU 42: Sexual Vitality, Refreshing our Understanding of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 1 of 2)
Add pleasure to the notion of healthy sex and the whole conversation changes!
In this very sexy conversation (earphones around little kids are good idea for this one!), we talk about the balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual health. “Sexual debut” vs losing our virginity… wow, how fun is that shift in thinking, for example?
Given that the single best predictor of therapy success lies in the relationship between therapist and client, what happens when that relationship becomes dysfunctional? In this episode, we discuss how to distinguish between therapy that gets hard in the process of healthy growth, versus therapy that causes strife and interpersonal distress. Lean how to identify if you are in trouble and what to do about it.
Learn how we can develop a compassionate inner voice to help us move toward self-love, emotional regulation and healing.
The single best predictor of therapy success-across different therapy models- lies in the relationship between therapist and client. Learn what this means and peek behind the note pad as three psychotherapists talk about love and hate in the therapeutic relationship.
Moving into a home with non-related kids comes with predictable challenges for each part of the system. Jump the hurdles and move the system into security rather than chaos.
How do we make sense of ourselves when we no longer make sense?
Understand how psychotherapy works and how stimulating brain plasticity enhances its effectiveness
Sexologist expert Alexandra Katehakis discusses everything from sex ed to porn. Learn how to build vitality in your sex life!
Learn the 3 pillars of attachment security and how to heal from the inside-out.
“Witness Marks” from your biography that predict medical and mental health risk in your future
The coolest thing about mentalizing is that it is teachable and can interrupt the transmission of insecure attachment with very low level interventions compared to years of psychotherapy.
Updated research on insecure adult attachment tells us these categories are more fluid than fixed. Begin to really get this down so we can build towards earned security.
We all know it doesn’t happen until we’re ready for it, but that doesn’t stop us from trying to ram change down our loved one’s throat. This episode will help us be smarter, kinder, and more importantly, make change more effective for those we love.
Remember your extreme adolescent self-consciousness? Today’s episode will bring us all up to speed on what’s going on in the teenage noggin and give us ideas about how to handle it.
We explore a three step process for finding relief from continuous worry and anxiety. Don’t let your primitive brain hijack your emotions – this episode goes into more detail about the process of managing worry and anxiety.
New York Times best-selling author Tina Payne Bryson shares her experience as a parent and clinician on parenting with the brain in mind.
Listen to our conversation with therapists from Austin In Connection – recorded live! We joined Austin In Connection for their Year of Conversations meeting to explore the foundations of relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology.
The art of listening seems so easy on the surface but often proves challenging in our lives. Listening can create feelings of powerlessness and subordination that makes us act out in ways that we often don’t even recognize. Our brains are anticipation machines! By using two sports visualizations, learn how to turn communication into a game with two winners.
Demystifying what happens in our body and emotions when we experience grief and loss. Candyce Ossefort-Russell helps us explore how loss of an important person, relationship or role deregulates our nervous system and makes us feel like we are in danger. Grief is our bodies reaction to this violation. It is a natural process we need to go through to heal. We also look at how personal and idiosyncratic the process can be for each individual. Candyce makes recommendations on how we can help ourselves and others navigate this journey to a new self organization. We also look at how uncomfortable our culture is with grief.
Self compassion includes fierce accountability and is essential to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but in this episode our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self compassion.
Group therapist tell us why they love group therapy and why it is valuable to their clients
Victim Perpetrator Rescuer? Rigid, self-defeating or even self-satisfying roles can limit our happiness in life at times. Learn more about theses three roles we all carry inside us and how we can transform them to make us stronger and happier. Our Karpman’s triangle infographic will help explain this phenomenon.
Help is here for having those uncomfortable conversations… like whether or not there such a thing as reverse-racism, what’s going on when people ask about white lives matter, how is racism different than prejudice, developmental models of racial identity, colorism, self-hatred and so on. This is a rich dialog that will be an interesting, hopefully shame-free conversation starter. We hope you share this episode widely and follow up with discussions about what you think with one another, or take action with the resource section in the show notes. Thank you Christine Schmidt and Rudy Lucas for the inspiration and the conversation!
Tips and tricks to manipulate your nervous system by increasing perceived safety and disarming the sense of threat- the Polyvagal Theory revisited.
How fostering social engagement enhances health and wellbeing
Why do we struggle to break and form habits? The neuroscience behind our fight to form and break habits.
Join us as we talk with the founder of Interpersonal Neurobiology and listen to him explain how the mind doesn’t just exist inside your skull.
Explained in plain speak. Unpack the complicated science behind the brain the mind and secure relating.
The surprising election results ave created deep passions which threaten to upend families, divide neighbors and strain work relationships. Understand powerful political passions and how to navigate them.
In-depth discussion on narcissism in our current political climate with Dr Leonard Cruz and Dr Steven Buser
Episode 12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good for Us: Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin
Healthy relating to your family, partner and friends isn’t always easy. Learn why and what you can do to make it go smoother.
Understanding the difference between feeling controlled and being infuenced. How to not be a doormat or a bully in important connections.
Get your squeak on! The rat tickler’s research on human emotions.
Learn specific tips on engaging with your partner that can immediately increase relationship satisfaction for both of you.
Therapists explain the neuroscience behind emotional over-reactivity.
One of the most terrifying treatment modalities explained.
This isn’t parent-blaming, it’s compassionate truth-telling so we can do it right this go round.
It’s been a long time since I was a kid so how could it possibly matter how I was raised?
This is a very short episode that demonstrates a simple but very powerful technique that improves neural integration and reduces stress
Most couples don’t match up perfectly when it comes to their sexual desires. What happens next? Understanding sexuality, emotions and sexual desire in long-term relationships can help keep the fires burning and help keep conflict, or drift, at bay.
Learn how to outsmart your brain and steer towards security. We will unpack the three specific brain structures that affect our sense of well-being and our relationships.
Learn why communicating your feelings doesn’t lead to your partner changing and why your belief that it should creates havoc.