Advanced Online Attachment Course - Grow Your Security
It's Not Me It's My Amygdala: Advanced Course Connecting the Science(s) of the Mind with Interpersonal Relationships
We want to help each of you become a little more secure, not as a feeling but as a fact. If you are interested in learning how to outsmart your biology and transform into the most relational and confident version of you, then you are our people. Our audience is intentionally wide- it includes everyone from seasoned therapists, students in the field, other professionals in other fields (medicine, law, education, business, among others) those injured by early relationships, and those life-long learners interested in staying abreast and helping make the world a little more secure.
What People are saying
May 24, 2020 12:19 pm by confused_explorer from United States
Thank you, ladies. This is such helpful work you’re doing!
May 23, 2020 8:00 am by mominwashington from United States
Just discovered your podcast and I can’t stop listening! I am a huge geek on my own with these topics, but even more, I am married to a narcissist. I so appreciate all of the technical aspects and practical tips. Life changing!
Happy to have found u
May 18, 2020 9:10 am by malpalOG from United States
I am so happy to have found this podcast. I find it an invaluable resource as a working counselor. Not only does it provide information, but it also provides a pick me up if you are teetering on the edge of burnout.
Honest, helpful & informative
May 15, 2020 2:15 pm by Oliveblue from United States
Thank you for producing a podcast that is unbiased, informative and to the point. So happy to have found you here!
May 15, 2020 1:08 am by # alone at xmas from United Kingdom
It’s almost the end of week eight What a surreal experience for me and the connection around me . You talk about creating relationship policy BUT you got to have people who can communicate at that level to make it possible And that is not the case for those I know BUT think ahead , well it’s so dam hard and yes energy draining Is it worth it? I just don’t know Energy is the key here having enough battery life to get this done In pandemic it’s dam hard to give energy away to such intense relationship that I question is this not about idealism ? Or are humans more about the push and pull
Don’t bring politics
May 12, 2020 1:26 am by budgetgrl from United States
As a person who has been in therapy for close to 8 years, I find your mention of The President and a diagnosis very unsettling. Even if you’ve noticed many attributes of a narcissist, how can you diagnose someone you have never treated? Ugh , disappointed. I find that my inner voice tells me this is wrong.
April 7, 2020 11:34 pm by HipHopRapture from United States
During these troubling fields, this podcast continues to equip listeners like me with cutting-edge tools to regulate emotions during the darkest of storms, and to help those in your spheres of influence. The guests interviewed always amaze me. I cannot express the words to thank the hosts for their service. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!
April 6, 2020 11:19 pm by Becca dj from United States
Love this podcast. You are all so awesome and have taught me so much! I appreciate you all taking the time to share your wealth of knowledge & for helping me realize so much about my own thoughts and feelings. Keep up the great work!!!
April 6, 2020 9:32 am by # alone at xmas from United Kingdom
Hello from Scotland yes our nations in the uk are in lock down this is week two of who knows when How am I feeling? Well I live alone I been most of days so does this isolating impact of n me? Not totally but heck I don’t want write a novel But I will share what I saw and how baffled I became by this Here selfish attitude came out I went out to get toilet roll the shop which is big retail was virtually empty I asked what’s going on? They said people are panicking and I asked well what are doing to help soften their and ration things ? They that is shop got angry with me ! I then said you need to calm down and calm this all down It’s not end of the world I then went to five different shops over many days when I did get what I needed But still people were panicking So I asked shoppers what they think 🤔 could slow them down and think beyond themselves and see bigger picture whilst slowing down They each said we have children we got to protect them . I sighed and said what about elder and disability people and those who are poor don’t they deserve to come here and get food They ignored me SO I decide to flip the situation and say okay my neighbour all got letters from me saying this is what I am going to do for you If you need me come Today after three weeks people began to come and say thanks 🙏 I well as I know how to live alone I can adapt I do know economics of this but together we can stay calm Let’s keep talking about this as each country is dealing with this differently but we are all dealing with this emotional way similar way Stay Safe Stay Grounded And love one day hug again xx
Wealth of knnowledge
March 3, 2020 1:05 am by fifiebehdiso from Canada
These women have taught me so much about both what it means to be a helping person and how to move through the world wish more insight and compassion. 🙏
This podcast is so important
February 29, 2020 10:59 pm by Jopecan from United States
I can’t say enough about how much I appreciate this podcast. Having grown up with both a mother and stepmother who had BPD, and being a nurse who sees the psychological and somatic ramifications of trauma and attachment disorders every day, this podcast speaks a language that makes sense of an enormous human problem. It offers me both personal and professional hope. Thank you.
February 28, 2020 8:43 am by ExNavyMid from United States
I’ve listened to two episodes specifically about narcissism. I was in a 14 year marriage to a malignant narcissist. We share three children. They are now all adults. While I could have handled my children and her much better and much longer ago - I am at a point in my life (happily remarried and with a new family) that I believe the only way she can get any supply from me is through the destruction of my adult children. I had custody of two of my kids towards the end of custody. My daughter is now 25 - and studying to be an LCT! She is fairly astute - but they certainly have never held their mother accountable. And as I watch this all play out - having explained via their Q&A over time why their mom is the way she is - our relationships remain strained and they still hold her in seemingly absurd regard. She is remarried to a man who Ive beard has been in and out of 28 day rehab programs five times over the last few years. She enables. My 19 yo witnesses it. I have not spoken to her in about a year and a half when I made the final decision to truly go no contact and while she sometimes texts me - I also have finally blocked her on my phone. Listening to your podcast - I will say I do pity her. But it’s not easy and since we all know she knows the difference between right and wrong (she was raised Mormon) - it is very hard to have any empathy. I don’t see any other answers and for extreme cases like her. I think you should make that very clear to your listeners some malignant narcissists need to be fully avoided. Relationships ended. And no contact instated.
February 28, 2020 12:14 am by # alone at xmas from United Kingdom
I learnt a great deal from this podcast and it was all new knowledge What a generous gift 🎁 to share I find it hard feeling now it’s has though I frozen so many elements of self Self protect or maybe much deeper I know we’re humans but ( I really should stop saying but) it not that easy Energy +? =? Our emotions are delicate and yet the I keeps battling on
February 22, 2020 12:55 am by # alone at xmas from United Kingdom
I would really love to talk with either of you simply because I really think you do know what your saying Do you know how rare it is to find a Threapist who understands But your not here your a podcast I suppose that’s how I wake up to a reality
Blew me away!
January 28, 2020 6:32 am by drjillt from United States
I am a clinical psychologist with 18 years experience. I just listened to your dismissive/avoidance podcast, and was extremely impressed! You unpack the theories with such skill, lightness, and fun. Your ability to articulate the client’s perspective was excellent. Thank you for sharing your talents and gifts with us! A fan in KC
A highly recommended podcast
January 7, 2020 11:52 am by gluttsnappa from Sweden
Thank you for such inspirational and in-depth information in this exciting research/therapy area. I am grateful that I get access to your work and I feel like your podcasts give me new things to reflect upon. Thank you so much for sharing and keep your podcasts coming!
January 7, 2020 1:40 am by # alone at xmas from United Kingdom
Okay this was great to hear BUT can you link this to attachment? Or not ? How about the other layers of fractured self I feel that there are elements missing in this
Everyone needs to know
January 3, 2020 7:16 am by anna100OoOo from United States
So often we have a false sense of happiness and happily ever after and this podcast helps shed light on unhealthy behavior. We live in a digital world that teaches us what is normal and happy but behind the scene may not always be so cheery and we need lessons here to help learn and navigate difficult relationship.
Thank you! So much great information !
January 2, 2020 12:00 pm by Taylor63toys from United States
I am a counselor, mostly with children. However, I have learned so much about adults, polyvagal theory, attachment myself and narcissism. So appreciate your work and your guests!
Narcissistic relationships compassion
December 29, 2019 12:54 pm by Absttar from Australia
Thank you for your compassion and physiological understanding of narcissism and relationships and what to do. I had so much resonance and recognised how I am narcissistic in some ways too. What stood out is the grounding and anchoring you both have in regards to the topic, and it translates via the podcast into a grounding for the listener- (rather than fear based energy). Thanks again
Now, check out these episodes to learn more about each attachment style.
This episode is especially for those “talk to the hand” kind of people, or those that love them. You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak. Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irrational at times.
Improve your sense of security and communicate more effectively with those you love by understand preoccupied/anxious attachment. Learn to manage your body’s reactivity in relationships by learning about this attachment tendency and how it relates to unconscious regulation of the brain. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD discuss and make the information practical for real world use.
The elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization, and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history. Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, and some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, we are left to our own to manage the world. In research terms they call this disorganized, but we’d like to describe it as squirting squid ink to confuse who we think is the predator and making a run for it.
Wrapping up this 3-part series focusing specifically on adult attachment, Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss disorganized attachment, how it forms, how it appears in adult life, and how you can identify when you fall in a pocket of it to organize yourself internally and externally.