TU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes

For our 100th episode, tune in for a review of favorite audience episodes and back stories about the evolution of Therapist Uncensored with co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott.  This is a show hosted by 2 therapists who share the most usable science on attachment relationships psychotherapy and trauma.  It combines both host lead conversations and interviews with top experts in the the respective fields – neuroscience, therapists, academic researchers, musicians and pop-culture celebrities that share their wisdom about relationships. 

TU99: Food, The Body, Trauma, & Attachment With Guests Paula Scatoloni & Rachel Lewis-Marlow

What if we flipped the script and learned to see our body as a messenger that needs to be heard rather than an obstacle to be conquered when it comes to our relationship with food? When we take physiological perspective, we learn that the body has much to say not only about food but also emotional regulation and our basic human needs for attachment and defense.

TU98: Diving Deeper Into the DMM of Attachment Science With Ann Kelley & Sue Marriott

Dive deeper into this new (to us) model of interpreting attachment science and discover how to apply it in your daily life.  Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD have fun breaking down the last two episodes where Dr. Patricia Crittenden so generously shared her strategies of adaptation model, called the Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM).  Focus is on personal and clinical importance in this last of a 3-part series on the DMM.

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TU97: The Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM) of Attachment With Guest Dr. Patricia Crittenden (Part 2)

A unique perspective in the treatment and assessment of attachment injuries, the DMM is explained in detail right here! Dr. Patricia Crittenden shares her model, the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment and Adaptation, and uses her rich international background to deepen our understanding of culture and context on self-survival strategies.

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TU96: Treating Attachment & Self-Protective Strategies With Guest Dr. Patricia Crittenden (Part 1)

Discover a new voice and unique perspective in the treatment and assessment of attachment injuries. Dr. Patricia Crittenden shares her model, the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment and Adaptation, and uses her rich international background to deepen our understanding of culture and context on self-survival strategies.

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TU95: Oxytocin, Dogs & Pet’s in General as Attachment Figures

Want a totally free, no-hangover naturally produced cuddle-drug?
Oxytocin provides a boost of the best bonding drug possible and is the natural love drug our bodies make at key relational moments such as child-birth, nursing, orgasm and falling in love.  In this episode we discuss how to create this moral molecule without even needing complicated human relationships by connecting mutually to our companion pets.  What’s not to love about that?

TU94: The Science of Self-Regulation – Breaking down Polyvagal Theory

The science of relaxing into love….this episode continues the exploration of Polyvagal Theory by bringing it to life through discussion and real-life examples.  Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley continue to break down one of the most important theories of our generation when it comes to trauma and psychological treatment.

TU93: Polyvagal Theory in Action – The Practice of Body Regulation With Dr Stephen Porges

We are excited to bring you Dr. Stephen Porges, the award-winning neuroscientist who proposed the Polyvagal Theory. This theory uses neuroscience and physiopsychology to explain mechanisms in the brain that create symptoms we call psychological disturbances. PVT has stimulated research & treatment emphasizing the importance of biology, the body, and behavioral regulation. It’s not just for our brains, it’s for our hearts!

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TU92: Understanding Addiction and Attachment-Informed Treatment With Guests Brad Kennedy & Vanessa Kennedy

Learn 3 distinct features that make one vulnerable to addiction and understand the varied dynamics through the lens of attachment with guests Brad Kennedy and Dr. Vanessa Kennedy. By getting curious about our behaviors and understanding why we do what we do, we can begin shifting our narrative from one of shame to one of compassion.


TU91: Curiosity – One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection

Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new?  There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make.  Kids are naturally curious.  As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered!  What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that curiosity is one of the most powerful relationship tools we have?  Curiosity is much more than a quest for knowledge and is not as simple as it seems. 

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TU90: Avoidance and the Difficulty Opening Up with Guest Robert T. Muller

It’s hard enough to unfold yourself in therapy, but when your life experience has challenged you, avoidance is sure to follow.  It is difficult to open up if you found safety in being cloaked – but that cloak can clog up our current adult relationships.  Dang it! Sorry to tell you what we imagine you already know. 🙂 Gotta lose the cloak, friend!

TU89: Neurofluency, Using Neuroscience in Therapy, Work & Life with Guest Dr. Lou Cozolino

This episode breaks down the basics of neuroscience as it relates to being human in a relational world. This skill will help with your boss, your teacher, your student, your child, you client or you spouse. Learn to use the solid findings across varied life experiences. Sue Marriott joins Dr. Lou Cozolino, books and original articles on the subject.

TU88: 6 Steps to Increase Your Felt Sense of Security

Building inner security & self-confidence by yourself can seem nearly impossible, so for today we are ditching the heady neuroscience to break down 6 quick tips to improve self-confidence entirely on your own.  You’ll discover how this handful of steps can vastly improve the way you feel internally and the way you carry yourself externally.

TU 87: Treating Complex Trauma and Attachment with Guest Dr. Daniel Brown

This episode is packed with cool content! Learn about complex trauma, debunk myths of false memories from an expert witness of child sexual abuse, and of course revisit the 3 Pillars Model of effective treatment for attachment disturbances!

TU86: Mentalization and Regression, Listener’s Questions with co-host Sue Marriott

Co-host Sue Marriott ends the year by addressing in depth 2 questions from our audience. These focus on mentalization, the attachment spectrum and regression. We look at how we can lose the capacity to mentalize when we are in a dismissing state of mind and what happens when we regress into early modes of functioning.

TU85: Reading Between the Lines, Attachment in the Classroom with Linno Rhodes

Using the science of attachment in the classroom.  A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one’s life and the workplace.

TU 84: Why Do We Over (or Under) React? The Neurobiological Underpinnings of Attachment Categories

Neurobiological differences can be detected between secure and insecure relating, and even between the two organized insecure patterns of attachment (Dismissing and Preoccupied)!  This is cool because we can understand it and begin to gain mastery over our primitive reactions.

TU83: Establishing Neurological Safety through Relationships with Guest Bonnie Badenoch

The natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma.  In addition, the myth of self-regulation and how to re-engage interpersonal relationships. Using interpersonal neurobiology (ipnb) and polyvagal theory to establish safety and security in therapy and in relationships.

TU82: The Paradox of Masculinity with Guest Esther Perel

Can we find a way for men to be BOTH Relational and Masculine?  It couldn’t be a more important time for thoughtful, honest, and provocative discussion on what it means to be a man in today’s culture.  Perel makes a case that men are both harmed by the existing power structures and perpetuate harm by the codes imposed on them by all of us. In 2018 there are many contentious ideas about masculinity and “the male code” including confusion by men about how to hold themselves out as safe and masculine during this time of #MeToo and Kavanaugh. 

TU81: How Good Boundaries Actually Bring Us Closer, with Guest Juliane Taylor Shore

Interpersonal co-regulation requires boundary setting.  Most of us haven’t been lucky enough to learn to be good at boundary setting naturally, by good examples, so we have to literally be taught how to do this important skill.  Well today we are in luck!  Jello will be your friend.  🙂  

TU80: Nervous Systems in the News: Dr. Blasey Ford, Sexual Trauma Stories and the Power of Patriarchy

We also touch on the science of memory, implicit and explicit, mirror neurons, stress hormones and threat responses and most importantly the power of patriarchy to harm both women and men, both political parties and our democracy as we know it.

TU79: Attachment Spectrum and the Nervous System, Quick Review with Updates

A review of using the attachment spectrum to improve secure relating and to improve your understanding of yourself and others in your day to day lives.  Today we review what we’ve discussed so far on the podcast about the attachment spectrum and add more detail about the nervous system.  The spectrum uses the research in a way that makes it more accessible and clinically useful so that more people can gain from all this good data! If interested in more tune in to Episodes 5, 59, 60, 61 and 66.

TU78: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan – (Replay)

Neuroscience continues to document our ability to change and grow throughout our life. This episode takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years.  Learn how to adjust set stress “pathways” and move towards more secure relating in adult relationships, and also unravel the parallels that exist between attachment in infants and the elderly. 

TU77: Understanding the Mind with Guest Dr. Dan Siegel (Replay)

Deep discussion on how the current political, international and climate crises could be viewed as a chance to transform human connection rather than be seen from a place of doom. Dr. Siegel called for us all to become pervasive leaders – a great inspiration.

TU76: Behind the Scenes with Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott , Reflections and a Look Ahead

Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley walk the walk by bringing authenticity and vulnerability to their listeners and seeking connection, engagement and feedback. They also request listener feedback and input to help them co-create an exciting and high quality Season 3 of Therapist Uncensored.

TU74: Mentalizing: A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Guest Tina Adkins (replay)

The coolest thing about mentalizing is that it is teachable and can interrupt the transmission of insecure attachment with very low level interventions compared to years of psychotherapy.

TU73: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff (replay)

Self compassion includes fierce accountability and is essential to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but in this episode our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self compassion.

TU72: Attachment Parenting Versus The Science of Attachment, Clearing Up Misconceptions

Finding the middle ground between constantly attending to your child versus letting them learn to self-soothe is a challenge that all parents must face. In this episode, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, break down the difference between “Attachment Parenting” and the science of actual theory. 

TU71: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive

What makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk aboout?  It turns out, if couples do talk about sex, the conversation is often mostly about frequency.  However, what is missing are the zillion of other thoughts and feelings we have about intimacy (or lack there of), desire (or lack thereof), fantasies (or…

TU70: Challenge Your “Busy” Identity – Gain Consciousness Over Your Pace

Do you use a to-do list as a way to justify the need to be busy rather then the other way around?
Idleness can breed discomfort and busyness seems to help to fill in the gap. Learn how conscious busyness and idleness can generate cognitive health and happiness, while unconscious busyness and passivity just adds to the stress trap.

TU69: Exploring Intersecting Genders: A Conversation For Everyone with Li Brookens

Walk through the discovery experience of coming to understand yourself as transgender, and see how coming to truly discover and embrace yourself relates to everyone, not just those who identify as non-binary.  Personal and delightful story of transgender identity discovery, and catch up with what you should know about gender identity. Example – what’s the difference between transgender and butch lesbian, sex, gender and sexual orientation, tomboy and trans… and what’s the deal with the strange pronouns. Find out here.  

TU68: Separation at the Border – Compounding Trauma and Insecurity

“Security” at the border?  Relational science professionals have a lot to offer to understand the human rights event that is unfolding on the US-Mexico border.  This podcast has been all about promoting security in ourselves and our loved ones, and a primary component to this is access to your caregiver when you are young.  It effects our biology, or persistent sense of ourselves and our view of the world.  But it works both ways… Stress and fear that is ongoing also has the same persistent thumbprint as well. 

TU67: A Practical Technique to Calm and Confidence with Guest Richard Hill

Unlock natural problem solving and calm the chaos of your mind using Hill and Rossi’s treatment tips.  The Mirroring Hand technique teaches you to use your natural problem solving to manage stress and anxiety.

TU66: Lessons from the Single-Not-Dating World on Using Attachment Science in Real Life, with Guest Becki Mendivil

Candid and hilarious conversation about how the relational sciences translates to work and parenting, by a listener ready to challenge the premise. Afraid of interacting with your co-workers? All the single listeners, (think Beyonce!) heads up.  Learn to use attachment science day to day and delve more deeply into the avoidant end of the spectrum. Fun episode!

TU65: Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Tuning Into the Wisdom of Your Body, with Guest Dr. Pat Ogden 

We have unconscious stories about ourselves and the world held in our mind/body.  Sensorimotor psychotherapy helps you be curious about what your body stores & can have a huge impact on your sense of self. Tap into your own mind/body as a deep & abiding source of information and means of finding self-understanding and closer connection. It’s part of growing secure relating with self and others!

TU64: Mindfulness Meditation with Yoga Therapist Kelly Inselman, Bonus Episode

Enjoy a straight shot of Kirtan Kriya Meditation from Kundalini Yoga Instructor and Therapist, Kelly Inselman. That’s fancy for coolness and calm. Who doesn’t want that? Dive right in and give yourself the gift of practicing along – we guarantee a more regulated nervous system moment. Money back guarantee. 🙂

TU63: Living with Cancer – The Six Principles of Emotional Healing with Guest Kelly Inselmann

Cancer sucks, no way around it.  Learn how blending the principles of emotional healing and yoga can bring emotional, physical and relational support. No yoga required, the conversation itself is healing, and you’ll also find a bonus mediation made specially for our listeners. Don’t be scared of woo woo, it’s easy and nourishing without any commitment. 🙂

TU62: The Luv Doc – Dating and Relationship Advice from the Trenches with Dan Hardick

Columnist Dan Hardick, the Luv Doc, has seen it all. Get his irreverent and bitingly honest insights on the dating scene and relationships that survive. He comes from the unique position of having decades of experience editing the Personal Ads and giving cringe-worthy dating advice with his column in the Austin Chronicle. Great insights and rowdy fun.

TU61: It’s Not Crazy, It’s a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem – Disorganized Attachment

The elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization, and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history.   Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, and some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, we are left to our own to manage the world.  In research terms they call this disorganized, but we’d like to describe it as squirting squid ink to confuse who we think is the predator and making a run for it. 

Wrapping up this 3-part series focusing specifically on adult attachment, Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss disorganized attachment, how it forms, how it appears in adult life, and how you can identify when you fall in a pocket of it to organize yourself internally and externally.  

TU60: Preoccupation in Relationships – Grow Your Security by Learning the Signs of Anxious Attachment

Improve your sense of security and communicate more effectively with those you love by understand preoccupied/anxious attachment.  Learn to manage your body’s reactivity in relationships by learning about this attachment tendency and how it relates to unconscious regulation of the brain. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD discuss and make the information practical for real world use.

TU59: Dismissing/Avoidant Attachment – Are You Cool, or just Cut Off?

This episode is especially for those “talk to the hand” kind of people, or those that love them.  You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak. Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irrational at times.

TU58: Improving the Interpersonal World of the Internet for Both Kids and Adults with Guest Catherine Knibbs

Explore how we both build and damage connections as we engage in the online world.  We discuss the impact on developing minds and the interpersonal realm of young people and adults, including cyberbullying and cybertrauma.   Guest Catherine Knibbs

TU57: Healthy Dating for Women Who Love Women with Guest Pam Greenstone LPC

Dating bites (& no, that’s not necessarily a complaint :)).  Learn to get out there and enjoy yourself as you peruse your choices.  This episode is for everyone – all genders and sexualities – but today we focus on same-sex oriented women in the LGBTQ community. 

TU56: How We Come to Define Ourselves, Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan Sroufe

How does one come to see themselves and predict the world? That was the original question for researchers who have been studying attachment for over 40 years! Dr. Alan Sroufe tells us what his thoughts are now, many years and tons of data later, about how we find ourselves and relate to others.

TU55: Feeling Empty?  Demoralization and the Fight Back to Caring Again.

Hopelessness, loss of meaning, and existential distress – these are the characteristics not of depression as one might think, but of demoralization.  They are different syndromes with different directions for intervention. Find out more in this episode where co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP discuss how transitioning from taking an active stance towards either situation can be beneficial. Learn how you can develop both internal and external coping mechanisms against demoralization. 

TU54: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan

Neuroscience continues to document our ability to change and grow throughout our life. This episode takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years.  Learn how to adjust set stress “pathways” and move towards more secure relating in adult relationships, and also unravel the parallels that exist between attachment in infants and the elderly. 

TU53: Complex Trauma and Managing Dysregulation with Guest Robyn Gobbel 

Learn how to understand challenging histories and best address the complex trauma in your life, whether it be your own, your child or another loved one. Self-compassion, avoiding shame in parenting and addressing these issues in therapy are covered.  

TU52: Using Mindfulness, Movement and Yoga to Manage Arousal, with Guest Kelly Inselmann

Conquer your stress and worry using the neuroscience-backed techniques in this episode. Not woo-woo, movement and yoga can enhance the depth of your therapy and assist in reducing your upset no matter where you are. Also see the bonus track that accompanies this episode, a 12-minute high-quality meditation that you definitely want to give a try! Don’t be scared, you may be surprised you like it.

TU52.5: Bonus Episode: Meditation to Reduce Stress and Worry

Neuroscience tells us that learning to manage our arousal through practice benefits our minds and body very quickly. This is a bonus episode designed to go with Episode 52 – this one is a straight 12-minute mindfulness meditation lead by yoga master and psychotherapist, Kelly Inselmann.

TU51: Conquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert, Dr. Steve Finn 

Shame, the good, the bad and the ugly!  In this podcast, learn how to recognize the various forms of shame and how guilt can be an antidote to this pit in the stomach feeling.  Sue Marriott, Dr. Ann Kelley and guest Dr. Stephen Finn engage in a wide-ranging discussion about the least favorite feeling in most people – the collapsed feeling of shame!

TU50:  The Psychology of an Entrepreneur -Surprising Insights with Guest Krisztina ‘Z’ Holly

Get your own dormant entrepreneur inside of you excited with this podcast, which delves into the psychology of these successful leaders. Also find out how to increase the “luck” factor in getting your goals accomplished.  

TU49:  Five Strategies to Manage Intense Emotions & Why Emotional Regulation Matters

Become a master not a disaster at relationships! Quick tips to help you regulate emotions in yourself and others. Deepen your skills at deciphering these things we call feelings (ack!) and learn how to use this information to co-regulate yourself and those close to you.

TU48: Tensions Around #MeToo, Bridging Gender in This Conversation

Can healthy dialogue around the #MeToo phenomena cross genders? We explore the tensions felt by both men and women in their discussions around sexual harassment and assault and explore strategies for increasing understanding and connection.

TU47: Attachment Insecurity and Secure Parenting with Guest Tina Payne-Bryson 

Those of us who haven’t had it easy growing up aren’t doomed to repeat our challenges with our own children. Learning about secure parenting can make us paranoid, but no worries — there is a lot of leeway to get things generally right. Learn about the 4 S’s of healthy relating in this podcast.

TU46: Redefining Infidelity: Guest Esther Perel on Love and Desire in Modern Relationships

Guest Esther Perel shares her research on love, desire and infidelity in modern relationships. Update your model of health and widen your perspective on the erotic, which is the difference between a relationship that just survives, and one that thrives!

TU45: Music, Emotion and Therapy: Interview with Bob Schneider, Austin Music Legend

Not only does Bob Schneider (professional musician and wicked Creative) share his navigation of emotion as he writes music, in this in-depth conversation he also shares personal stories about his therapy and recovery with Sue Marriott.  He goes on to describe mediocre versus great therapy, how to train your critical brain like your dog, and taking in tons of information like a whale and spitting out “song turds” from his unconscious. Blending anecdotal stories, neuroscience and attachment theory, this interview both entertains and educates.

Bonus section:  Sue discusses an extended excerpt of Schneider’s song, “Let the Light In” from an attachment perspective.

TU44: Your Brain on Music: How Music Affects Your Mind, Memory and Happiness

Learn how to use music to improve brain health, manage mood, increase relational happiness and get tips on how to build neural plasticity through this art. Remember, it’s not just cotton candy for the ears!

TU43: Sexual Vitality: Six Principles of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 2 of 2)

We continue our (sexy) conversation on ways to create sexual vitality throughout our lives. From honesty about our fantasies and desires, to sexual health and a new way of looking at addiction, this episode will get you thinking and hopefully sharing!

TU42: Sexual Vitality, Refreshing our Understanding of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 1 of 2)

Add pleasure to the notion of healthy sex and the whole conversation changes!
In this very sexy conversation (earphones around little kids are good idea for this one!), we talk about the balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual health.   “Sexual debut” vs losing our virginity… wow, how fun is that shift in thinking, for example?

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TU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes Bad

Given that the single best predictor of therapy success lies in the relationship between therapist and client, what happens when that relationship becomes dysfunctional? In this episode, we discuss how to distinguish between therapy that gets hard in the process of healthy growth, versus therapy that causes strife and interpersonal distress. Lean how to identify if you are in trouble and what to do about it.

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TU40: Meditation And Neuroplasticity Provide a Path To Healing: An Interview With Sarah Peyton

Learn how we can develop a compassionate inner voice to help us move toward self-love, emotional regulation and healing.

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TU39: Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic Relationship

The single best predictor of therapy success-across different therapy models- lies in the relationship between therapist and client. Learn what this means and peek behind the note pad as three psychotherapists talk about love and hate in the therapeutic relationship.

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TU38: The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family Relationships

Moving into a home with non-related kids comes with predictable challenges for each part of the system. Jump the hurdles and move the system into security rather than chaos.

Sarah Peyton

TU37: Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category

How do we make sense of ourselves when we no longer make sense?

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TU36: The Neuroscience Of Psychotherapy: An Interview With Louis Cozolino

Understand how psychotherapy works and how stimulating brain plasticity enhances its effectiveness

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TU35: Sexuality From A Neurobiological Perspective

Sexologist expert Alexandra Katehakis discusses everything from sex ed to porn. Learn how to build vitality in your sex life!

Sarah Peyton

TU34: Treating Attachment Disruptions in Adults With David Elliott

Learn the 3 pillars of attachment security and how to heal from the inside-out.
We cover quite a lot in this podcast, especially about treatment, but if that still isn’t enough, these show notes are PACKED with PDF’s of great material offered by Dr. Elliott! Below you will find 4 full PDF handouts about the salient ideas of their synthesis of treatment for adults with attachment disruptions.

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TU33: Adverse Childhood Experiences: A Roadmap To Understanding And Treatment

“Witness Marks” from your biography that predict medical and mental health risk in your future

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TU32: Mentalizing:Breaking Down A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Tina Adkins

The coolest thing about mentalizing is that it is teachable and can interrupt the transmission of insecure attachment with very low level interventions compared to years of psychotherapy.

Sarah Peyton

TU31: Attachment on a Spectrum: Navigating Adult Insecurity and Security

Updated research on insecure adult attachment tells us these categories are more fluid than fixed. Begin to really get this down so we can build towards earned security.

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TU30: The Stages of Change: A Roadmap to Readiness

We all know it doesn’t happen until we’re ready for it, but that doesn’t stop us from trying to ram change down our loved one’s throat. This episode will help us be smarter, kinder, and more importantly, make change more effective for those we love.

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TU29: Understanding Adolescent Self-Consciousness From A Brain-Wise Perspective

Remember your extreme adolescent self-consciousness? Today’s episode will bring us all up to speed on what’s going on in the teenage noggin and give us ideas about how to handle it.

Sarah Peyton

TU28: Minding Anxiety: How To Reduce Noise In The System

We explore a three step process for finding relief from continuous worry and anxiety. Don’t let your primitive brain hijack your emotions – this episode goes into more detail about the process of managing worry and anxiety.

Sarah Peyton

TU27: Raising Secure Children With Guest Tina Payne Bryson

New York Times best-selling author Tina Payne Bryson shares her experience as a parent and clinician on parenting with the brain in mind.

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TU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal Neurobiology

Listen to our conversation with therapists from Austin In Connection – recorded live! We joined Austin In Connection for their Year of Conversations meeting to explore the foundations of relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology.

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TU25: Ping-Pong vs Catch: Turning Communication from Competition to Connection

The art of listening seems so easy on the surface but often proves challenging in our lives. Listening can create feelings of powerlessness and subordination that makes us act out in ways that we often don’t even recognize. Our brains are anticipation machines! By using two sports visualizations, learn how to turn communication into a game with two winners.

Sarah Peyton

TU24: Grief And Our Body’s Wisdom On Surviving It With Candyce Ossefort-Russell

Demystifying what happens in our body and emotions when we experience grief and loss. Candyce Ossefort-Russell helps us explore how loss of an important person, relationship or role deregulates our nervous system and makes us feel like we are in danger. Grief is our bodies reaction to this violation. It is a natural process we need to go through to heal. We also look at how personal and idiosyncratic the process can be for each individual. Candyce makes recommendations on how we can help ourselves and others navigate this journey to a new self organization. We also look at how uncomfortable our culture is with grief.

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TU23: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff

Self compassion includes fierce accountability and is essential to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but in this episode our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self compassion.

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TU22: Love Letter To Group Psychotherapy

Group therapist tell us why they love group therapy and why it is valuable to their clients

Sarah Peyton

TU21: Reduce Drama in Your Life – Unpack The Victim Perpetrator Rescuer In Us All

Victim Perpetrator Rescuer? Rigid, self-defeating or even self-satisfying roles can limit our happiness in life at times. Learn more about theses three roles we all carry inside us and how we can transform them to make us stronger and happier. Our Karpman’s triangle infographic will help explain this phenomenon.

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TU20: Developing Racial Identity With Guests Rudy Lucas And Christine Schmidt

Help is here for having those uncomfortable conversations… like whether or not there such a thing as reverse-racism, what’s going on when people ask about white lives matter, how is racism different than prejudice, developmental models of racial identity, colorism, self-hatred and so on. This is a rich dialog that will be an interesting, hopefully shame-free conversation starter. We hope you share this episode widely and follow up with discussions about what you think with one another, or take action with the resource section in the show notes. Thank you Christine Schmidt and Rudy Lucas for the inspiration and the conversation!

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TU19: Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal System

Tips and tricks to manipulate your nervous system by increasing perceived safety and disarming the sense of threat- the Polyvagal Theory revisited.

Sarah Peyton

TU18: Polyvagal Theory: Understanding Irrational Threat Responses in Relationships

How fostering social engagement enhances health and wellbeing

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TU17: The Biology of Motivation and Habits: Why We Drop the Ball

Why do we struggle to break and form habits? The neuroscience behind our fight to form and break habits.

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TU16: Inside The Mind Of Dr Dan Siegel: An Interview

Join us as we talk with the founder of Interpersonal Neurobiology and listen to him explain how the mind doesn’t just exist inside your skull.

Sarah Peyton

TU15: Decoding The Science Of Interpersonal Neurobiology

Explained in plain speak. Unpack the complicated science behind the brain the mind and secure relating.

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TU14: How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And Beyond

The surprising election results ave created deep passions which threaten to upend families, divide neighbors and strain work relationships. Understand powerful political passions and how to navigate them.

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TU13: Our Powerful Fascination With Narcissism In The Era Of Trump

In-depth discussion on narcissism in our current political climate with Dr Leonard Cruz and Dr Steven Buser

Sarah Peyton

TU12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good for Us: Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin

Healthy relating to your family, partner and friends isn’t always easy. Learn why and what you can do to make it go smoother.

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TU11: Gain Influence and Balance Power in Important Relationships

Understanding the difference between feeling controlled and being infuenced. How to not be a doormat or a bully in important connections.

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TU10: The 7 Circuits of Emotion: What Animals Can Teach Us about Human Relating

Get your squeak on! The rat tickler’s research on human emotions.

Sarah Peyton

TU09: Minding Your Relationship: Three Mindfulness Exercises to Practice With Your Partner

Learn specific tips on engaging with your partner that can immediately increase relationship satisfaction for both of you.

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TU08: Understanding Emotional Triggers: Why Your Buttons Get Pushed and What To Do About It

Therapists explain the neuroscience behind emotional over-reactivity.

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TU07: What is Group Therapy and 5 Reasons You Should Try It

One of the most terrifying treatment modalities explained.

Sarah Peyton

TU06: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships (continued) Part 2: Attachment 102 Part 2

This isn’t parent-blaming, it’s compassionate truth-telling so we can do it right this go round.

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TU05: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships: Attachment 101 Part 1

It’s been a long time since I was a kid so how could it possibly matter how I was raised?

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TU04: A Simple Technique to Reduce Stress and Worry: Mindful Awareness Practice in Action

This is a very short episode that demonstrates a simple but very powerful technique that improves neural integration and reduces stress

Sarah Peyton

TU03: Different Sex Drives: Are We Screwed?

Most couples don’t match up perfectly when it comes to their sexual desires. What happens next? Understanding sexuality, emotions and sexual desire in long-term relationships can help keep the fires burning and help keep conflict, or drift, at bay.

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TU02: Brain Science 101: How Understanding Your Brain Can Improve Your Relationship

Learn how to outsmart your brain and steer towards security. We will unpack the three specific brain structures that affect our sense of well-being and our relationships.

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TU01: Communication 101: Decoding Couples Communication

Learn why communicating your feelings doesn’t lead to your partner changing and why your belief that it should creates havoc.