TU90: Avoidance and the Difficulty Opening Up with Guest Robert T. Muller

It’s hard enough to unfold yourself in therapy, but when your life experience has challenged you, avoidance is sure to follow.  It is difficult to open up if you found safety in being cloaked – but that cloak can clog up our current adult relationships.  Dang it! Sorry to tell you what we imagine you already know. 🙂 Gotta lose the cloak, friend!

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TU88: 6 Steps to Increase Your Felt Sense of Security

Building inner security & self-confidence by yourself can seem nearly impossible, so for today we are ditching the heady neuroscience to break down 6 quick tips to improve self-confidence entirely on your own.  You’ll discover how this handful of steps can vastly improve the way you feel internally and the way you carry yourself externally.

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TU86: Mentalization and Regression, Listener’s Questions with co-host Sue Marriott

Co-host Sue Marriott ends the year by addressing in depth 2 questions from our audience. These focus on mentalization, the attachment spectrum and regression. We look at how we can lose the capacity to mentalize when we are in a dismissing state of mind and what happens when we regress into early modes of functioning.

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TU85: Reading Between the Lines, Attachment in the Classroom with Linno Rhodes

Using the science of attachment in the classroom.  A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one’s life and the workplace.

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TU78: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan – (Replay)

Neuroscience continues to document our ability to change and grow throughout our life. This episode takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years.  Learn how to adjust set stress “pathways” and move towards more secure relating in adult relationships, and also unravel the parallels that exist between attachment in infants and the elderly. 

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TU70: Challenge Your “Busy” Identity – Gain Consciousness Over Your Pace

Do you use a to-do list as a way to justify the need to be busy rather then the other way around?
Idleness can breed discomfort and busyness seems to help to fill in the gap. Learn how conscious busyness and idleness can generate cognitive health and happiness, while unconscious busyness and passivity just adds to the stress trap.

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TU69: Exploring Intersecting Genders: A Conversation For Everyone with Li Brookens

Walk through the discovery experience of coming to understand yourself as transgender, and see how coming to truly discover and embrace yourself relates to everyone, not just those who identify as non-binary.  Personal and delightful story of transgender identity discovery, and catch up with what you should know about gender identity. Example – what’s the difference between transgender and butch lesbian, sex, gender and sexual orientation, tomboy and trans… and what’s the deal with the strange pronouns. Find out here.  

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TU67: A Practical Technique to Calm and Confidence with Guest Richard Hill

Unlock natural problem solving and calm the chaos of your mind using Hill and Rossi’s treatment tips.  The Mirroring Hand technique teaches you to use your natural problem solving to manage stress and anxiety.

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TU61: It’s Not Crazy, It’s a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem – Disorganized Attachment

The elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization, and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history.   Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, and some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, we are left to our own to manage the world.  In research terms they call this disorganized, but we’d like to describe it as squirting squid ink to confuse who we think is the predator and making a run for it. 

Wrapping up this 3-part series focusing specifically on adult attachment, Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss disorganized attachment, how it forms, how it appears in adult life, and how you can identify when you fall in a pocket of it to organize yourself internally and externally.  

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TU60: Preoccupation in Relationships – Grow Your Security by Learning the Signs of Anxious Attachment

Improve your sense of security and communicate more effectively with those you love by understand preoccupied/anxious attachment.  Learn to manage your body’s reactivity in relationships by learning about this attachment tendency and how it relates to unconscious regulation of the brain. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD discuss and make the information practical for real world use.

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TU59: Dismissing/Avoidant Attachment – Are You Cool, or just Cut Off?

This episode is especially for those “talk to the hand” kind of people, or those that love them.  You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak. Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irrational at times.

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