TU108: Judgment of Others & Self-Criticism Explored as a Defense

Judgement says more about the judg-er than the judg-ee.  It’s not Judgement – Bad.  It’s Judgement-Interesting.

Everybody judges and in truth, we unconsciously evaluate good/bad all the time – both positively and negatively.  It’s our brains appraisal system.  However unchecked it’s also a very handy interpersonal defense.  Today we explore one aspect of insecure functioning, unchecked judgement and harsh self-criticism.

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TU105: Narcissism, What is Going On Under the Defense w Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley

The Myth of Narcissus

Get under the hood of what narcissism truly is, what causes it and what the defense and personality structure is all about. With compassion this phenomena is explored, focusing this time on the diagnosis itself. Later we will discuss Malignant Narcissism and what to do if you were raised in this environment or are partnered with a narcissist.

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TU104: Attachment Science & the Single World With Guest Becki Mendivil (Replay)

Becki Mendivil TU104: Attachment Science & the Single World

Candid and hilarious conversation about how the relational sciences translates to work and parenting, by a listener ready to challenge the premise. Afraid of interacting with your co-workers? All the single listeners, (think Beyonce!) heads up.  Learn to use attachment science day to day and delve more deeply into the avoidant end of the spectrum. Fun episode!

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TU103: Curiosity – One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection (Replay)

Curiosity

Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new?  There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make.  Kids are naturally curious.  As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered!  What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that curiosity is one of the most powerful relationship tools we have?  Curiosity is much more than a quest for knowledge and is not as simple as it seems. 

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TU102: Finding Neurological Safety through Relationships, with Guest Bonnie Badenoch (Replay)

Explore the myth of self-regulation, the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. Learn about using interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and Polyvagal Theory to establish safety and security in therapy and in relationships.

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TU101: Treating Attachment Disruptions in Adults With David Elliott (Replay)

Young bearded man in wheelchair talking receiving treatment from a psychotherapist, treating attachment disturbances in adults episode with David Elliott

Learn the 3 pillars of attachment security and how to heal from the inside-out.
We cover quite a lot in this podcast, especially about treatment, but if that still isn’t enough, these show notes are PACKED with PDF’s of great material offered by Dr. Elliott! Below you will find 4 full PDF handouts about the salient ideas of their synthesis of treatment for adults with attachment disruptions.

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TU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes

For our 100th episode, tune in for a review of favorite audience episodes and back stories about the evolution of Therapist Uncensored with co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott.  This is a show hosted by 2 therapists who share the most usable science on attachment relationships psychotherapy and trauma.  It combines both host lead conversations and interviews with top experts in the the respective fields – neuroscience, therapists, academic researchers, musicians and pop-culture celebrities that share their wisdom about relationships. 

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TU95: Oxytocin, Dogs & Pet’s in General as Attachment Figures

Cooper as a rescue puppy

Want a totally free, no-hangover naturally produced cuddle-drug?
Oxytocin provides a boost of the best bonding drug possible and is the natural love drug our bodies make at key relational moments such as child-birth, nursing, orgasm and falling in love.  In this episode we discuss how to create this moral molecule without even needing complicated human relationships by connecting mutually to our companion pets.  What’s not to love about that?

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TU91: Curiosity – One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection

Curiosity

Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new?  There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make.  Kids are naturally curious.  As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered!  What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that curiosity is one of the most powerful relationship tools we have?  Curiosity is much more than a quest for knowledge and is not as simple as it seems. 

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TU71: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive

What makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk aboout?  It turns out, if couples do talk about sex, the conversation is often mostly about frequency.  However, what is missing are the zillion of other thoughts and feelings we have about intimacy (or lack there of), desire (or lack thereof), fantasies (or…

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TU62: The Luv Doc – Dating and Relationship Advice from the Trenches with Dan Hardick

Columnist Dan Hardick, the Luv Doc, has seen it all. Get his irreverent and bitingly honest insights on the dating scene and relationships that survive. He comes from the unique position of having decades of experience editing the Personal Ads and giving cringe-worthy dating advice with his column in the Austin Chronicle. Great insights and rowdy fun.

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