Resources

Love and Relationships

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert John Gottman’s seminal work on research into what makes couples happy. Practical and wise – Gottman is one of the father’s in the field of helping couples have satisfying relationships!

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Sue Johnson is another of the masters on couple’s therapy. Good easy to hear read.

Your Brain on Love – this is my favorite to refer to clients. Stan Tatkin is a guru at making the complex ideas of interpersonal neurobiology understandable to the public. Check out any of his books as recommended!

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Esther Perel

Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate Stan Tatkin, this those looking to date.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships One of the best explanations of differentiation and how maintaining yourself is essential for sexuality. Love the chapter on differentiation!

Personal Growth

Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human  Dan Siegel MD.  Just released October, 2016. New York Times Bestseller. Check out Podcast Episode 16 interview with Dr. Siegel!

Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma Peter Levine.  An excellent basic for those with trauma and therapists working with trauma. Any of those by Levine are exceptional.

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself Kristen Neff PhD is a researcher in Austin – has great TED talks and an excellent message we can all use. Don’t the let the title fool you, this is science-based solid direction that is simple but hard to do.

The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions Kristen Neff, another one this time on mindfulness and self-compassion, a powerful combination to create real depth and change.

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression Great contribution for rounding out the care of depression for men – this book sensitively explains the hidden epidemic of male depression. Great read.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA by a therapist who is recovering from complex PTSD – great find!

Psychodynamic Group Psychotherapy Scott Rutan Walter Stone and Joseph Shay. These are masters of group. Excellent text for therapists and others eager to learn about group. You can trust these authors.

Mindfulness

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha OK you have to include Tara Brach – anything by her – in your quest to understand yourself and tame any inner gremlins.  Seriously, she’s the bomb.  She resists being seen as a guru that has it all together thank heavens… she talks about dark stuff in a believable way that brings trust and inspiration, not eye rolls.

Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness by Jon Kabat-Zinn details how hospital patients have improved their health or simply come to feel better despite their illness by using mindfulness techniques. These techniques are also super helpful to anyone dealing with stress. Kabat-Zinn presents several meditation techniques that focus the attention using either a simple phrase, breathing, or various parts of the body.

The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions Kristen Neff, another one this time on mindfulness and self-compassion, a powerful combination to create real depth and change.

The Untethered Soul Michael Singer — could be life-changing, has been for some we know. Audio voice is hard to get used to at first but the content is fantastic – calls you on your stuff and helps you know what to do about it.

A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook by Bob Stahl and Elisha Goldstein practical exercises that can transform your life and build a stronger brain. It’s a step-by-step approach to bringing this scientifically grounded approach into daily life – the coolest thing is that it includes a CD with more than eight hours of guided meditation. Bam!

The Body Keeps the Score — van der Kolk is one of the grampa’s of trauma research, he’s been studying, teaching and treating PTSD and trauma since the 1970’s. Everyone.

Daring Greatly — a great book on shame and perfectionism — also check out her (free) TED Talks!  Mindfulness, for everyone

Start Where You Are, A Journal for Self-Exploration — tools to help your journey, for everyone

Sexuality and Gender

What Do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire by Daniel Bergner the newest scientific research into female lust. Check it out – it includes research that challenges many of society’s assumptions about women and sexuality.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Esther Perel

Scary Old Sex taboo-breaking work in the form of collected stories on late-life sexuality, by a practicing psychiatrist

I am Jazz — book for transgender kids.  It made the list of the most challenged books this year.  Awesome!

Sex is a Funny Word – great book for kids dealing with gender and sexual identity

Beyond Magenta, Transgender Teens Speak Out — several teen stories of gender-bending teens before during and after they come out

Parenting

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting by John Gottman and Joan Declaire provides parents with a five-step “emotion coaching” process to help teach children how to recognize and address their feelings. This includes becoming aware of the child’s emotions; dealing with these emotions as an opportunity for intimacy; listening empathetically; helping the child label emotions; setting limits; and problem-solving. It’s a good basic one to have digested if you are a parent.

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson – excellent attachment-informed parenting

Parenting from the Inside Out 10th Anniversary edition: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who ThriveBy Daniel Siegel, MD & Mary Hartzell, MEd, — this is another building block for parenting and a good one to even understand attachment as an adult if you are working on yourself. It explores the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way we parent. Based in neurobiology and attachment research it details how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain Another by Dan Siegel – we gotta include those teenagers!

Self-Regulation for Kids K-12: Strategies for Calming Minds and Behavior Patricia Tollison another excellent therapist from Austin, this is a practical and comprehensive guide teaching steps for self-regulation for kids.

The Blessing Of A Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children A favorite for raising self-reliant, ethical and compassionate children

Psychotherapy

A General Theory of Love by Lewis, Amini and Lannon delves into the research that suggests we are healthier when connected to others. It is the book that lead to one of our co-hosts becoming a therapist because it unveils how psychotherapy works.

Creatures of a Day: And Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom is drawn from his decades of work as a psychanalyst. It chronicles clients’ struggles to find meaning in their lives and how they are grappling with their own mortality

The Shadow of the Tsunami: and the Growth of the Relational Mind Bromberg is a basic in every study group for therapists I’ve lead. This punches powerfully and reads like great literature. Primarily for therapists for sure, but if you love to go deep then have at it!

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression Great contribution for rounding out the care of depression for men – this book sensitively explains the hidden epidemic of male depression. Great read.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA by a therapist who is recoverning from complex PTSD – great find!

Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma An excellent basic for those with trauma and therapists working with trauma. Any of those by Levine are exceptional.

For Therapists

Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Bonnie Badenoch – an amazing clinician and author translating the science of interpersonal neurobiology for therapists.

The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Also see the Brain-Savvy Therapist’s book.  Bonnie is a master clinician

The Shadow of the Tsunami: and the Growth of the Relational Mind Bromberg is a basic in every study group for therapists I’ve lead. This punches powerfully and reads like great literature.

Louis Cozolino’s The Neuroscience of Psychotherapy: Healing the Social Brain (Second Edition) (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Cozolino is a master

Harvel Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want — couples basics

Sue Johnson, Love Sense A great primer for those in relationships!

The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection (Basic Principles Into Practice Series) Another one by Sue Johnson, a great one for your library for therapists. Solid basic foundational book.

The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World Iain McGilcrist – also check out his free RSA animation to explain the divided brain.

Neurobiology Essentials for Clinicians: What Every Therapist Needs to Know (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Arleen Montgomery – kick ass therapist in Austin TX who gives us the basics. Must buy.

Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) by Pat Ogden Excellent older book, have used in therapy study groups.  Chock full of depth for therapists.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment Another great staple read for those working with the body, trauma, attachment and interpersonal neurobiology.  Odgen is a master sensorimotor therapist, trainer and teacher.

Affect Regulation and the Repair of the Self (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Alan Schore, one of the fathers of interpersonal neurobiology. Dense but worth if if you can handle the science and lot’s of references.  (Please forgive small brag, note that Sue Marriott, co-host of Therapist Uncensored Podcast, is listed in the forward.)

The Developing Mind, Second Edition: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are Dan Siegel – here is the cornerstone and launching pad for the field of interpersonal neurobiology. Thank you Dan for your seminal work!! This book is dense, used in our study groups and recommended to be read with others.

The Neuropsychology of the Unconscious: Integrating Brain and Mind in Psychotherapy (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)

Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy: Advances from Neurobiology and the Science of Intimate Relationships (Norton Professional Books) One of our favorite books on couples therapy.  New and different, always recommended for therapist study groups.

Brain-Based Parenting: The Neuroscience of Caregiving for Healthy Attachment A ambitious work that links real world parenting strategies with the underlying neuroscience.

Clinical Application of the Adult Attachment Interview: Howard Steele, Miriam Steele, Editors.  Clinical applications and interventions for the Adult Attachment Interview.

Therapy Matters: Mental health experts writing on matters of the heart & mind Blog from Austin Texas where therapist contribute posts discussing mental health and well being.

Austin IN Connection A non-profit, 501(c)(3) organization based in Austin, Texas striving to bring powerful concepts about relationships, parenting, and psychological growth to our community by offering training, learning experiences, and networking opportunities for both helping professionals and for members of the public.

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